‘The Bear’s’ Italian Family Get a Few Pointers on Putting Joy in Their Lives

As an Italian-American with roots as deep as the olive trees of my ancestral homeland, I feel compelled to address the misrepresentation of our kindred spirits in “The Bear.” While the Berzatto family may embody the volatile, melodramatic stereotype often associated with us, let me assure you that we are a far cry from that portrayal.

To clarify, not all Italian families resemble the dramatic and turbulent Berzattos from “The Bear.” In fact, most Italian families are far more enjoyable and less prone to frequent misery compared to their on-screen counterparts. So, if you ever find yourself connected to an Italian family, don’t let fear drive you away – they are generally much more entertaining!

Since its debut in 2022, “The Bear,” Hulu’s captivating series that straddles the line between drama and comedy, has sparked endless discussions. Its compelling narrative and exceptional performances by the cast are certainly worthy of praise. However, one might question the appeal of the Berzatto family – a group with whom most would rather avoid socializing. As someone who is 85% Italian (courtesy of 23andMe) and was raised in a large extended family where friends were affectionately called aunts, uncles, and cousins (“Hey, paisan!”), I can attest that this show is about more than just love, laughter, and joy – it encapsulates the essence of family dynamics.

Alright, let’s clarify this for our fellow Italians. Let’s delve into ways to help the Berzattos mend their hurts, face life with zest, and perhaps even bring forth the occasional grin, agree?

•Sing your heart out

Hey Berzattos, take some time to unwind. Play some soft tunes from Dean Martin, Tony Bennett, or Frank Sinatra. Their smooth voices singing about love and life being wonderful (“Bells will chime, and you’ll exclaim ‘life is beautiful'”) or even Rosemary Clooney promising that you’ll be “happy in your heart when you mambo Italiano” can’t help but lift your spirits. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, try beltng out passionately with Luciano Pavarotti. The emotional catharsis will have you shedding tears and then laughing at how effortlessly you let go of those feelings.

•Hug more, will ya?

In everyday language,

•Nicknames

In true Italian fashion, the Berzatto family has mastered the art of nicknaming, with each member’s name ending in “ie” or “y,” such as Carmy, Richie, and Mikey. Yet, Italians have a charming habit of pet names for one another, which the family on “The Bear” only lightly explores by calling Natalie “Sugar.” In my own family, we’ve got nicknames like Measles, Puco, and Dillinger that originated during their childhood, signifying who a) contracted measles, b) was a hockey enthusiast, and c) carried a gun and holster from an early age. These nicknames have stuck with them until they’re all gathered around the poker table in the afterlife, enjoying spritzes. Perhaps the Berzattos can create their own endearing terms of affection.

•Embrace your Italianness

Italians share traits similar to Geminis, often embodying a paradoxical nature. They exhibit remarkable strength alongside an equal sense of fragility. Their zest for life is evident in their playful demeanor, yet they are equally serious and thoughtful. The youthfulness that radiates from them seems to coexist with the wisdom of age.

2024-08-10 21:46

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