Dìdi Remembers All Too Well What It’s Like to Be 13

As a huge fan of coming-of-age films that resonate deeply with my own experiences, I was completely captivated by “Dìdi.” The film’s logline sets up certain expectations, but it quickly becomes clear that this is no ordinary coming-of-age story. Chris Wang’s directorial debut is a raw and honest exploration of what it means to be a 13-year-old boy teetering on the edge of adolescence in a predominantly Asian community, a reality rarely depicted in cinema.

In simpler terms, the movie “Dìdi” tells the story of a 13-year-old Taiwanese American boy named Chris Wang (Izaac Wang). He sets out to learn new things during his summer, such as skateboarding, flirting, and understanding his mother Chungsing (Joan Chen) beyond her role as a parent. However, the film reveals that Chris’s real lesson comes from navigating the challenging world between middle and high school. The movie is raw and genuine in portraying the emotional turmoil experienced by teenagers, making it relatable yet difficult to watch due to its authenticity. Director Sean Wang’s debut work offers a comforting reminder that even though this stage of life can be painful, it eventually passes, allowing us to gain perspective from both within and outside our experiences.

Dìdi is a coming-of-age movie that pays homage to this long-standing film genre, as seen in the opening iPhone video featuring Chris and his friends planning to destroy a mailbox, which references the iconic ending of “400 Blows” through a freeze frame of Chris’s delighted expression. However, Dìdi also belongs to the emerging subgenre of recent independent films that focus specifically on being thirteen and straddling the line between childhood and uncertainty. Films such as Bo Burnham’s “Eighth Grade” and Jonah Hill’s “Mid90s” fall into this category, but Dìdi distinguishes itself by taking place in a Bay Area city with a predominantly Asian population in 2008. Having grown up in a neighboring town with a similar demographic and visited the Milpitas mini-golf course where a cringeworthy scene occurs, I can relate to the nostalgic comfort of this setting. Dìdi, however, offers more than just another step forward in representation. It is a tale about an Asian American character whose racial identity isn’t presented as an absence or the primary cause of his sense of alienation. Instead, Chris’s mixed-race love interest, Madi (Mahaela Park), makes a casual and insensitive remark by commenting on his cuteness for being Asian. Chris’s racial identity is not the driving force behind his feelings of otherness.

Chris isn’t weighed down by the specific reasons for feeling like an outsider in this movie. He experiments with various personas, but most efforts result in missteps. For instance, he mimics his friend Fahad’s confidence, only to offend one of their female acquaintances. During a date arranged through text messages by Fahad, Chris becomes so jittery that he withdraws when Madi tries to make a move. Chris also fibs about having created skate videos and being half-Asian to impress some older kids, but his lies are soon exposed. Although Chris’s predicaments might appear insignificant, Wang portrays them with great importance through Chris’s perspective, and utilizes accurate representations of the internet era to highlight the intensity. The film showcases Chris’s fear of exposing himself, leading him to avoid confessing his feelings to the girl he likes rather than admitting his embarrassment.

In simpler terms, the movie “Didi” doesn’t make excuses for Chris’s aggressive behavior towards others, instead revealing its roots in insecurity, loneliness, and a need to belong. However, it also portrays Chris’s life at home as a contrast to his social struggles. His relationships with his mother, grandmother, and older sister are crucial to him but he finds it hard to express this emotionally. Instead, he acts out by borrowing his sister’s clothes, filming his grandmother’s exercises, and arguing with the woman who is raising him as a single parent. The actress playing Chungsing portrays her character with great compassion, never making her seem weak or pitiful despite Chris’s criticisms of her art. Chungsing remains strong and supportive, enduring Chris’s disrespect and frustration with grace. The movie primarily focuses on Chris but by the end, it feels like a heartfelt tribute to his mother – a mix of apology and appreciation from an adult looking back at his past.

2024-07-26 14:53

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